I had a fight with my boyfriend last week. We were teasing each other and he took it too far and made an inappropriate comment. It didn’t relate to the subject matter we were teasing each other about. He said i “was lucky he banged me.”
I admit I could have handled it better. The comment was a trigger and upset me. I didn’t yell at him, but tried to keep it lighter but make it known I was not okay with it. I think I waggled my finger and said how would he like it if I said he was lucky to “bang” me. Apparently me trying to be “humorous” was not taken well by him. He got quiet and mad and then gave me the silent treatment.
When we were driving home, I apologized for my reaction, I should I have expressed myself better and said that I still did not appreciate the comment. I told him I loved him but that hurt. He didn’t want to talk about it. But what he did say is that he didn’t want to feel censored and he does so much for me to make me happy. Then he shut down again.
He’s been texting me this week. Less texts and calls than usual. It’s hard, but I am giving him his space. When we talk on the phone, he’s not his usual happy funny self, but he has also been working a lot this week.
Do I just continue to let him be? I can’t help but having thoughts of trying to resolve this…I’m not sure if I should ask him if we’re okay or wait it out. After all, he is still initiating contact. Any advice?.http://www.anewmode.com/