If you want to know about love, ask someone with a lifetime of experience.
That’s why, when Karl Pillemer set out to collect advice about that deepest of human emotions, he consulted the country’s elders.
Pillemer, a gerontologist and professor of human development at Cornell University, and his team interviewed more than 700 Americans, ranging in age from 63 to 108, about their views on love. Married for 43 years on average, they weighed in on everything from how to find the right person to what keeps the spark alive.
Their answers are published in the book, “30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage.”
“It’s hard to put into words the kind of transcendental or sublime feel of people who have been together 50, 60 or 70 years and really made it work,” Pillemer told TODAY.
“Almost all of the people I interviewed were still very deeply in love, felt that love had grown and changed over the time they’ve been together and, surprisingly, felt that intimacy often was as good or even better.”