Proverbs 17:9 says, “He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends”.
It’s God’s will we have good relationship with our husbands, wives, relatives and friends. Satan’s desire is to have us have sour relationships. He wants us to keep quarreling and fighting always. He wants our relationships to tear apart.
KEYS TO KEEPING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS FROM TEARING APART
Nothing just happen. For you to enjoy good relationships, you should understand that two key things God is saying in the above foundation Scripture, and these key things are:
1. SEEK LOVE
2. DON’T SCRATCH OLD WOUNDS
For relationships not to tear apart, we should be love seekers.
I want you to take note of this!
There is no relationship without offenses. Meaning that if your husband did not offend you, you will offend him. If you relatives didn’t offend you, you offend them. If your friends did not offend you, you will offend them. What matters is not the offense, but what you seek out of it. Wisdom requires we seek love from every offense we received. And how do we seek love out of offenses? Its by covering the offenders transgressions. Cover it? Yes! That’s how to seek love from offense. Please, cover your husband’s, wife’s, friend’s faults.
The Proverb writer said:
Pro 10:12 Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.
1Pe_4:8 And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.
Love covers fault. It covers offense. God loves us and covers it through the blood of Jesus so we could have a good relationship with Him. If He marks our offenses against Him, our relationship with Him shall not stand.
The Psalmist asked, Psa 130:3 If thou, LORD, shouldest mark iniquities, O Lord, who shall stand?
Now, here is the love of God for us:
Rom 5:8 But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
DON’T SCRATCH OLD WOUNDS
Lastly, for us to enjoy good and peaceful relationships, we should not scratch old wounds.
Repeating your partner’s offenses; because he or she offended you today isn’t going to be helpful to your relationship. It makes it sour. It creates pain in you and also in the offender. It kills mutual love and peace in your relationships. So, talking about such issues over and over again, won’t make better your relationship but makes it bitter.
Repeating old issues never make you guys come together rather it separates you. It makes you people not to be closer to each other. The offender fears getting hurt and will distance himself or herself from you. Such act won’t be helpful to any of our relationships, whether marriage relationship, family relationships, courtship or friendship.
Repeating offensive matters tears relationship apart. Would you like your relationships be torn apart?
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